Difficult relationships

You can't develop your intuition - crucial for making good, intuitive food decisions - if you are constantly disregarding what feels bad for you.

Our circle shapes much of how we see ourselves and the world. They offer support, connection, and shared memories. But what happens when a relationship no longer reflects who you truly are anymore? Sometimes, leaving a bad relationship - whether romantic or platonic - is not just an option, but a necessary step toward reclaiming your value and healing your relationship with food.

The Weight of Others’ Opinions

Some people will always hold you in their highest regard. Others form long-standing opinions about you, that they feel comfortable with keeping. Sometimes this becomes apparent and we notice the difference in how we are regarded or treated by new people entering into our life.

We are all wired to change for the better, with the right support. Perhaps you might seek therapy, experience a "dark night of the soul", or enter a period of personal growth. However, if you’re continually treated like the part of you that never felt “good enough”, it doesn’t really matter whether it’s intentional or not - it’s probably going to affect your recovery.

Reclaiming Your Value

To know our value, we need to have the core elements: feelings of respect, positive self-talk, the ability to speak our mind, and feelings of worth. If we don't have healthy boundaries, these elements can easily be encroached upon.

Boundaries can be very difficult for an empath. We tend to see the best in people, understand the root cause of their behaviour, and give them endless chances. We see that we have not been perfect, either, and this can help us to excuse others.

But when friendships are one-sided, energy-draining, thoughtless, soulless, or involve destructive behaviour - they can contribute to unhealthy coping mechanisms, like disordered eating.

Your Intuition is Being Stifled

Some people may never understand how to be kind, selfless, or accommodating. Perhaps this makes you feel conflicted. But no matter how sad it is to let go of a friendship, you can't develop your intuition - crucial for making good, intuitive food decisions - if you are constantly disregarding what feels bad for you.

The only person who has to experience being you, is you. And, you are the only person that can change that experience. Leaving a friendship doesn’t have to mean anger or bitterness. It can be a gentle but firm act of self-respect. 

Moving Forward: Growth and Connection

Crucially, when you are able to listen to your body’s true signals and desires, you realise how much you have been ignoring - and it's incredible how choices become much easier, or internal signals become more obvious - and easier to act on!

You deserve friendships that uplift you, honour your growth, and support your journey toward healing. When you leave relationships that don't fit that way of being, your world opens up to possibility again.

Sometimes leaving a friendship less about losing someone, and more about finding yourself.

Lizzie x